We all face struggles in life. As capable as we are, we don't have to do it alone. It takes great courage to reach out and receive support. And, we all deserve support. I applaud you for taking that step. Contrary to common thought, inner work is not for the faint of heart - taking this journey is evidence of great strength.
At some level, people are generally aware that their lived experience of life could be better. I can assure you that greater ease is always possible. It doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you.
From the time of birth, we are programmed by those around us with beliefs about who we are, what relationships look like, and what the world is all about through what we witness, what we are told, what we experience, and our young tendency to attribute negative events to something being fundamentally wrong with us.
"I have been working with Lisa since January 2018. I have found her approach to be extremely effective as she is gentle, knowledgeable, and has helped me feel safe so I can explore and heal my most deep rooted issues around trauma and addiction. Since seeing her, my life has drastically changed for the better and I am so grateful to have had this opportunity."
"Turns out therapy works."
That programming - those unquestioned beliefs - create the thoughts we think, the feelings we have, the actions we take, and how we perceive the world as we grow and live out our lives. It does not always serve us - it can cause us to experience the same unwanted things over and over again and we are often mystified about how that can be so.
Our programming happened below the level of conscious thought, which is why - try as we may - it can be so hard to change.
“Problems cannot be solved with the same mind set that created them.” -Albert Einstein
We all experience events in life that "short-out" our systems because they are too much for us to digest at the time. As impressionable youngsters, these events (big and small - single episode or repeated) can have far-reaching consequences. When we move forward in life with those undigested fragments, we adopt strategies to survive and cope. In addition, we may have unmet yearnings for basic human needs such as care, connection, attention, and valuing. It is common for us to adopt certain ways of being in the world when we're young that seem to give us some of what we need.
Those strategies may have served us when we were young but they often get in our way later in life.
"After working with Lisa for 18 months, my life has come full circle. She gave me the encouragement, strength and willpower to finally break free of my worst nightmare. Her compassion towards me was so empowering, I was able to work through some of my childhood experiences with no judgement. I can't thank her enough as she became my ROCK."